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The Blessing of a Good Friend

Sunday, March 20, 2011

by Dr. Paul Chappell

"And it came to pass, that when David was come to the top of the mount, where he worshipped God, behold, Hushai the Archite came to meet him with his coat rent, and earth upon his head: Unto whom David said, If thou passest on with me, then thou shalt be a burden unto me: But if thou return to the city, and say unto Absalom, I will be thy servant, O king; as I have been thy father's servant hitherto, so will I now also be thy servant: then mayest thou for me defeat the counsel of Ahithophel. And hast thou not there with thee Zadok and Abiathar the priests? therefore it shall be, that what thing soever thou shalt hear out of the king's house, thou shalt tell it to Zadok and Abiathar the priests. Behold, they have there with them their two sons, Ahimaaz Zadok's son, and Jonathan Abiathar's son; and by them ye shall send unto me every thing that ye can hear. So Hushai David's friend came into the city, and Absalom came into Jerusalem."

2 Samuel 15:32-37

Blessed is the person who has a friend to encourage them to stay on the right path.

Author George Eliot penned the following words, describing the blessing of having a close friends with which to share burdens:

"Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts, nor measure words, but to pour them all out just as they are, chaff and grain together knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of kindness blow the rest away."

David was in a sorrowful place. Atop Mount Olivet, he cried to God, seeking refuge for the burden he bore. He poured out his grieving heart before God and humbled himself before the Lord. David recognized that in the midst of his family and kingdom spiraling out of control, only God could help him.

Just as David was seeking help, God answered his prayer by bringing Hushai to David's side. Hushai was an older man, but knew how to be a comforting friend to David. Notice two ways Hushai helped David.

Hushai shared his burden. "And it came to pass, that when David was come to the top of the mount, where he worshipped God, behold, Hushai the Archite came to meet him with his coat rent, and earth upon his head." Hushai was in a posture of mourning. He felt David's grief and joined him in expressing that grief.

As Proverbs 17:17 says, "A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity." Friends don't flee when times get tough, but offer to carry the burden you feel. True friends bear each other's burdens.

Hushai shared his direction. David gave Hushai a choice to join David or to go on to Absalom. Hushai chose to stay with David and was thenceforth known as a friend of David's, "So Hushai David's friend came into the city, and Absalom came into Jerusalem."

Along the road of life, we all need friends to walk with us, encourage us, and keep us going forward. Tough times come, grief can hit us, and trials can sometimes knock us off course. But blessed is the person who has a friend to encourage them to stay on the right path.

Who would you consider a burden-carrying, direction-sharing friend of yours? If you have such a friend, take time today to thank them for their encouragement. Also, determine to be such a friend to others. Commit to being a Hushai in someone else's life today.

To learn more about the ministries of Lancaster Baptist Church and Pastor Chappell, please visit lancasterbaptist.org, paulchappell.com, or follow him on twitter.

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